We are naturally wired to take revenge and bear a grudge when someone hurts us, but that doesn’t mean that we should do it! Revenge tends to start a vicious cycle or destroy relationships that were positive up until that point. And while taking revenge may feel good in the moment, it is usually not the best plan for the long-term.
The Ramchal in Mesilas Yesharim describes revenge as being “sweeter than honey.” He is obviously referring to that short-term satisfaction that one gets by restoring the balance of power and feeling that they got someone back. But the Ramchal also gives us a very good reason to overcome our instincts and forgive instead of taking revenge.
In this video, Rabbi Siddur and the Ramchal show you a better way to deal with disappointment and hurt.