Big or Small? The Surprising Power of Size in Jewish Law and Life

Imagine this scene: It’s late Friday afternoon. The table is set, challah is covered, and you’re sorting fruit for the Shabbos meal. Some nectarines are big, others are small. What’s the difference—aren’t they all the same?

This seemingly simple question is at the heart of one of Shabbos’ most fascinating rules: the melacha of borer, or selecting. It’s not just about what you’re picking—it’s how size and purpose reshape what counts as a “different type” in Jewish law.

Size Matters—But How?

According to Torah Live’s melachos of Shabbos series, when you’re dealing with large and small items, the halacha sees beyond appearances. If it’s fruit—like large and small nectarines—they’re actually considered one type! After all, whether it’s one big nectarine or two small ones, the eating experience is basically the same.

But let’s shift to another example. Think bath towels: large towels for drying your body, small ones for the face. Now, size changes the purpose, and in Jewish law, that difference is huge. If an item’s size means it’s used differently, it’s considered a completely different type for the laws of borer.

Life Lessons from Psychology—Why Details Make a Difference

What does modern psychology have to say about this? Studies have shown that our brains automatically categorize things based on defining details. We notice what makes an item unique, and we assign it a different value or purpose—even when the difference seems trivial.

That means the Torah’s wisdom about size reflects how our minds really work. Humans thrive on distinctions. In life, the smallest details—like a tiny lump in baby food—can change everything, especially to a new parent!

Everyday Examples: The Towel Test

Fruit: Big and small nectarines? All one type—unless a difference in size actually changes how you’d use or serve them.
Towels: Bath, hand, and face towels—even if they look similar—are different types because each serves a different function.
Spoons: You wouldn’t put soup in your tea cup or stir tea with a ladle. The size fits the role, making them different types for borer.
Baby food: For infants, even small lumps are a big deal. A parent might need to remove them (using special conditions) according to Shabbos laws, because to the baby, lumps vs. smooth is a real difference.

Practical Steps for Your Shabbos Table

When picking items (food or non-food) on Shabbos, ask: Does the difference in size change its use? If yes—treat them as different types.
If there’s no practical difference—like two sizes of the same fruit meant to be eaten the same way—it’s one type.
Not sure? When in doubt, keep items together, and check out Torah Live or consult a halachic authority for guidance.

From the Halacha—and Your Heart

The Torah’s approach encourages us to look deeper—not just at what things are, but at how we use them. This lesson ripples through life. Whether it’s differentiating between small and significant tasks, or understanding what makes each person special, the magic is in the details.

Final Thought: Unlock the Power of Torah Living

Next Shabbos, as you organize your table or tidy the toy shelf, notice the little differences. They might just be the key to understanding yourself—and others—a little better. Want more real-life Torah wisdom for today’s world? Sign up for free Torah Live content: clean videos, interactive games, and fun challenges, perfect for everyone at home! 100% clean. 100% fun. Jump in now!

Big or Small? The Surprising Power of Size in Jewish Law and Life