What a car ad taught me about ahavas chesed

Ever sit through a slick commercial and feel a strange pull to want something you didn't even know existed five seconds ago? That's not an accident. That's the whole point. And once you notice it, you start to see how much of our world quietly whispers, "Get more for yourself."

There's a moment in Torah Live's Professional Car Ad from the Live to Give series that captures this perfectly. Three boys, Simcha, Yair and Baruch, watch a polished commercial that says, "Life is short, so live it to the fullest. Get the things that make life good." It sounds harmless. It even sounds wise. But that little ad cracks something open in them, and it can do the same for us.

The hidden message behind "get more"

The car ad isn't really selling a car. It's selling a worldview. The message is simple: you exist to receive, to acquire, to fill your life with shiny things. The more you take in, the better your life supposedly becomes.

Rabbi Dessler famously taught that every person is either a giver or a taker. These aren't just two personalities. They're two opposite ways of moving through the world. A taker asks, "What can I get?" A giver asks, "What can I give?" The car ad trains us, quietly and constantly, to become takers.

Try this today: Notice the next ad you see and ask, "What is this teaching me to want?" Just naming it weakens its grip.

Why giving makes us bigger

Here's the surprising part. The boys in Live to Give discover that chasing "cool things" left them feeling empty, while giving to others made them feel alive. That's not a coincidence. Rabbi Dessler explains that love actually grows through giving, not receiving. We come to love the people we invest in.

Think about a parent and a child. Parents pour endless effort into their children, and that very giving creates a bottomless well of love. The car ad has it backwards. We don't become full by getting. We become full by giving.

Try this today: Do one quiet act of chesed without telling anyone. Notice how it changes the way you feel about that person.

Real heroes give

Simcha, Yair and Baruch start asking a beautiful question: what does it really mean to be a hero? Media tells us heroes are the ones with the best gear, the coolest image, and the most attention. The Torah tells us something else entirely.

Avraham Avinu is our model of greatness, and his defining trait wasn't wealth or fame. It was chesed. He ran after guests in the desert heat. He gave and gave and gave. Real heroes, the Torah teaches, are the people who live to give. That's the quiet revolution the boys spark among their friends, and it's the same ahavas chesed revolution we can spark in our own homes.

Try this today: Ask your kids, "Who's a real hero you know?" and listen for the chesed in their answers.

Building a giving home

You don't need a contest or an app to start an ahavas chesed revolution. You need small, consistent choices. Rabbi Wolbe taught that real growth comes from steady, deliberate steps, not dramatic leaps. A giving family is built one ordinary act at a time.

When children see giving modeled at the dinner table, in the car, and in how you speak about others, they absorb it. The car ad shapes takers in 30 seconds. A home of chesed shapes givers over a lifetime.

Your turn to start the revolution

Here are five things you can do today to grow in ahavas chesed:

Catch one ad and ask what it's training you to want. Awareness is the first step to staying a giver in a taker's world.

Give one compliment you'd normally keep to yourself. Words are chesed too.

Pick one family member and quietly do something kind for them. Watch your love for them grow.

Share one story at the Shabbos table about someone who lives to give. Make chesed the hero of your conversations.

Choose one small chesed to repeat daily for a week, like calling a grandparent or helping clear the table. Steady steps build a giving heart.

That car ad whispered, "Get the things that make life good." The Torah answers with something far truer. The things that make life good aren't things at all. They're the moments we give. When we live to give, we stop asking what we can get from the world and start asking what we can pour into it. That's where real life begins.

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